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Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Five Things You Love about You

I’m borrowing this idea from Downtown Dharma, because it’s an excellent exercise in self-love.


Could you list five things you love about yourself?
I’ll go first.
   1. I serve and love the Lord
   2. I can draw and paint.
   3. I care so much about people and will help them if I can.
   4. Good listener, very kind hearted and loving ^_^
   5. I find myself funny, and love to make others laugh, and cheer them up.

What I found surprising is the lull that I experienced between points #4 and #5. Seriously, it took all weekend to write this blog. I’d like to think I have pretty decent self-esteem, but even I fumbled at complimenting myself.
You’d think it would be easy to be nice to yourself, but self-criticism and judgment just comes more naturally to some. It takes nothing to look at the negative, but the positive is always ducking behind a tree.


Remember a moment in your life when you look in the mirror and go: “I’m good enough. I’m smart enough and cute and pretty/handsome, people like me? It was funny and cheesy… but it was kinda on to something.
When’s the last time you said something nice about yourself out loud? If it’s been a while (or maybe never), you’re long overdue.


You can’t wait for people to notice the good things about you. You have to recognize and celebrate them for yourself. I mean, after all, if you don’t like you, who else will? Loving oneself is the healthiest thing a person could do, you must love yourself first and have confidence in yourself. Then relationships, friendships being great at your job, at school will be an easy process.
One of my mother’s many words of advice is: “Speak positive things about yourself everyday.” So go for it. Don’t be shy; toot your own horn. List five things you love about yourself and post it below.



Thursday, February 9, 2012

Why You Look Different in Photos Than You Do in the Mirror?


        Yesterday morning, you looked good. Yesterday evening, before you went out, you're pretty sure you looked real good. So who the hell is this schlub in the Facebook album from last night, tagged with your name?
         It's a phenomenon nestled somewhere between universal annoyance and urban legend: People see something different in the mirror than they do in photographs. More often than not, the former is controlled, predictable and palatable, while the latter is an endless source of nasty little surprises.
So, why the disparity? The answer is complicated, but it boils down to this: Your eyes, your brain, your mirror and your camera are all conspiring to sabotage your body image.

It's the camera
         The camera adds ten pounds! At a certain point, this obscure TV adage became folk wisdom. While this particular effect probably refers specifically to television, and in particular the distorting effect of the convex curvature of older TV sets, it seems to hold true for regular folks, sometimes in still pictures as well as video.
          Cameras sensors may be absorbing the same photons as our eyes, but they're doing so through a complex lens that can actually change the way you look. Most cameras, from the dumpiest point-and-shoots to high-end DSLRs, ship with lenses capable of adjusting to wide, zoom-ed out perspective, and tight, zoomed-in views. At both extremes, the lens plays weird—and potentially ugli-fying tricks.
        A wide angle lens does as its name suggests, capturing an image spread over a wide angle. The field of view in a wide-angle shot is wide—wider than that of your own eyes. In pulling this off, some lenses create a sort of fisheye effect, which can bloat subjects in the middle, and stretch those on the outside. This, however, is instantly recognizable, and probably won't cause too much anxiety. In other words, If the shot looks like a still from an episode of Jackass, you probably shouldn't let it figure into your self-image too much.
        But there's a subtler effect of wide lenses called wide-angle distortion: Since the field of view is super-wide, objects close to the camera will seem large, while objects just a bit further away will seem very small. Here's a scene from Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels that illustrates the effect, starting a 4:18. (NSFW, sorta.)
        The net effect is an illusion of size, both width and height. Subtle, sure, but it's there.
Telephoto lenses are usually seen as more flattering, giving the impression that the subject is flattened, and slightly compressing the width of your foremost features, like your nose or breasts. So you might want to think twice before fleeing the pesky paparazzi and their fancy zoom lenses; it's the tourist with the pocket cam whose snaps will make you look fat on the Internet.
       Lens distortion isn't the only way a camera can screw with your visage. Flash illuminates subjects harshly, turning elegant faces normally accented by soft shadows into a flat, shadowless, cadaveric horror shows.
      Whether these effects are annoying or used to advantage, they mean that what you see in photos is different than what you see in the mirror.

It's the Mirror
          I don't mean to imply that the camera is the only liar, here, because mirrors are just as guilty. For one, they flip your image. The You you're most familiar with, then, is actually an exact opposite of how you look to others. Granted, it's an intuitive reversal, so it doesn't bother us when we see it, but it implants a self-image that's intrinsically wrong.
       On top of that, there's the problem of perspective. People stand close to mirrors, but see their whole selves. This provides a reasonable perspective, but a unique one: it's the perspective of a person standing near to you, eyes proportionately closer to your head than to your feet. This is the perspective of a partner in conversation, not a photographer. Looking a certain way from three feet away doesn't mean you'll look the same from 15.

It's you
      The physics of lenses and mirrors offer solutions to specific problems, i.e. OH MY GOD SO THAT'S WHY MY WONDERFUL BUTT LOOKS SO FAT ON FILM! However, these explanations don't speak to a more relatable weirdness about photography. It's a feeling of uncanniness. It's a sense that something about the photographed self seems unquantifiably different than the mirrored self. It's in your head.
       Think about the act of looking on a mirror. It's incredibly limited You pretty much need to be facing forward, or else you can't see. You will always be looking slightly down at the rest of your body. You will pose for yourself, to achieve the most flattering look. You will hide fat behind folds of clothes, or minimize a strange facial feature with a tilt of the head.
        Other people, including photographers, don't see this version of you. They see a version that you are rarely privy to, and that can seem wildly foreign to our ingrained sensibilities. As Slate explains, it's a bit like how people hate their own voices on tape, doubly so because we know that those foreign, goofball intonations represent that way that everyone else hears us. In photos, we see ourselves in various states of motion, in different contortions and from uncaring, neutral perspectives. Lenses may distort, sure, but in a powerful way, these uncomfortable photographs are closer to reality than our carefully images in the mirror.  (J. Herrman, gizmodo.com)

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

You are good enough just as you are.

During your life, you will encounter people who will try to convince you to be dissatisfied and unhappy with yourself. 
These people will try to tell you your hair is wrong, 
your weight is wrong,  your height is wrong,
your color is wrong, your diet is wrong, 
your clothes are wrong, 
your high school and college courses are wrong, 
your religion is wrong, your job skills are wrong, 
your job itself is wrong, your career choice is wrong, 
your house is wrong, your kitchen is wrong, 
your cooking is wrong,  you yourself are wrong. 
The right thing to do is to observe yourself, and see for yourself the things that are right: 
you were good to someone, you learned something new, 
you taught yourself a skill, you completed another year of school, 
you grew taller, you learned to drive a car, 
you helped a neighbor, you repaired something, 
you painted a room, you successfully cooked something new, 
you straightened up the back yard, you served on a jury, 
you volunteered, 
and otherwise you progressed today — some of these things will not literally happen today, but they will happen, because you are good enough just as you are.
— Unknown
Wherever you are right now, and whatever you’re doing, stop for just a moment. 
Take a second and tell yourself “I love you.” It doesn’t really matter how much you believe it right now, in time you will come to see the truth in it. 
Then, allow yourself a short dance break and laugh as loud as you can. 
Your body can’t tell the difference between when you pretend to laugh and when the laughter becomes real. 
So laugh a lot. You’re body will thank you. 
Take this short time for yourself. You deserve it. You’re alive and beautiful. Celebrate.
Everyone is beautiful. Don't let anyone make you feel ugly, and never make anyone else feel it.

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Miracles!

Woman, 21, who was told she was infertile after battling cancer TWICE has 'miracle' baby 
Madeleine battled Hodgkin's Lymphoma twice in 18 months 
Has miracle baby with partner she met during chemotherapy

      A young cancer victim told she was infertile after having more than 300 hours of chemotherapy is finally enjoying motherhood after the birth of her "miracle" baby.
Madeleine Telfer, 21, lost two-and-a-half stone in weight after battling Hodgkin's Lymphoma TWICE in 18 months.
     She was devastated when doctors warned her that the constant chemotherapy had probably left her infertile and she would never have children.  But less than a year later she was stunned to discover she had fallen pregnant with partner Stephen Batey, 27, who she met during her treatment.
      Madeleine Telfer with her partner Stephen Datey and her miracle baby boy Harris who was born on November 27, 2011
      Now the couple are celebrating the birth of their "miracle" baby Harris, who is two months old.
    Madeleine, who is now trying for her second child, said: 'All I ever wanted was a family. It's something I've dreamed of since I was a wee girl.
    'And when the doctors told me I would be infertile I was distraught.
    'Of course, losing your fertility is a small price to pay to save your life, but I was devastated.
    'When I found out I was expecting Harris, I don't think I've ever been so happy.'
   Three sisters take drastic step of having their breasts AND wombs removed to avoid hereditary cancer death sentence that killed their mother at just 32
     In August 2008 Madeleine was a normal teenager studying child care when she began to feel ill.
    Her glands swelled up and she lost two and a half stone in just a few weeks.
  Her worried parents Robin, 52, and Careen, 49, took their daughter to Crosshouse Hospital in Kilmarnock, Scotland, where a biopsy revealed she had cancer.

      Madeleine, 21, never thought she would be able to have children
       From January 2009 she underwent a four-hour chemotherapy session every two weeks for six months, notching up 48 hours of treatment.
     Madeline said: 'I was in my bedroom when my mum came in. She sat down, very calm, very composed.
    'She said I had Hodgkin's Lymphoma. I had cancer.
    'I had a lurching feeling in my stomach. It didn't make sense, it didn't feel real. It was overwhelming.
    'I was a very lively, bubbly person but during treatment I felt rotten for months. I had no energy but my family and friends were really supportive.'
    The treatment made Madeleine so weak she caught pneumonia but despite her illness she was given to news that her treatment had been successful in August 2009 and her cancer had gone into remission.
    Life returned to normal, Madeleine began to see friends and got a job in the clothing store TK Maxx.
    But on January 12, 2010, Madeleine's world came crashing down for a second time when she received the news a routine CT scan had shown the cancer had returned.
    She was rushed into 'salvage chemotherapy' and endured three gruelling 90 hour sessions in isolation - a further 270 hours. 
It was during her recovery in the weeks following her treatment that Madeline met her partner        Stephen, a postman, while having a quiet drink with friends.
     Madeleine, who lives in Kilmarnock, East Ayrshire, said: 'My friends wanted to take me out as a treat.
     'I had been in isolation for a long time during my treatment so we went a drink in Kilmarnock and Stephen was there.
'I had a wig on because I lost my hair, I told him my story and it went from there.'
    Following the treatment Madeleine was transferred to the Beatson Cancer Centre in Glasgow to replace stem cells destroyed during her treatment.
    Madeleine's brother Gary, now 24, and Carleen, 26, were tested and her sister proved a perfect match.
     But just weeks before the operation Carleen fell pregnant and couldn't donate.
     Madeleine Telfer during cancer treatment in March 2010, when she wore a wig
     Madeleine added: 'I thought I was cursed. Nothing was going right.
'I was happy for my sister because she had been trying for a baby for a while, but I was devastated that it meant she couldn't donate.'
      Madeleine was given the all clear at the beginning of May 2010.
She added: 'I was over the moon, I was just so happy.
'It also meant that stem cells that I had removed during my treatment, which we were saving, could be put back into me.'
      Madeleine returned home and enjoyed Christmas with her family.
     Her dreams came true in March last year when she found out she was pregnant, something she had given up hope on two years earlier.
     Madeleine was over the moon and gave birth to baby Harris on November 27 last year after just a three hour labour.
     She said: 'I couldn't believe it I did about five tests to make sure.
'Life is now just fantastic. I couldn't be happier. He is a little miracle.
    'I have come through a lot and as a result I am a completely different person.
     'We would love Harris to be joined by a wee brother or sister but I appreciate everything I have. Everything is wonderful.'

 (COPYRIGHT: Daily Mail - .dailymail.co.uk)

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

What Are Your Standards Of Success?



Different people have different standards for success. For one person it might be the amount of salary he gets and for another it might be the satisfaction he receives from the kind of work he does. Success is being happy. If material thing brings you happiness, then you're successful. Awards by the company; the level of authority a person has etc. They say that the standards of success will be achieved by maintaining an HMT Formula; H-Health Management, M-Money Management and T-Time management. Some other factors could be the comfortable relationship one has with his/her peers/seniors, the high amount of recognition and good performance.


For me, the standard of success in life isn’t the things. It isn’t the money or the stuff — it is absolutely the amount of happiness and joy you feel while doing your job. It's you who has to decide what is more important to you to be able to evaluate your level of success at your job. 

I would say success is having a job that you enjoy doing enough that you don't mind going to work every day. If you want a personal example then I can safely say that the company I worked for previously didn't pay me much but it gave me a lot of opportunities to grow in my field and I was recognized for all the good work I did. I always remember the word from Colossians 3:17, that whatever I do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him, most likely to do my duty well because I go to it with a heart overflowing with gratitude to God for his mercies, and likely to perform my duties with the most cheerful fidelity. For me that was my standard of how successful I am.

Find a job that matches your morals and goals in life. Good Luck with finding out your standard! :)