Five Things You Love about You

I’m borrowing this idea from Downtown Dharma, because it’s an excellent exercise in self-love.

Could you list five things you love about yourself?

I’ll go first.

   1. I serve and love the Lord

   2. I can draw and paint.

   3. I care so much about people and will help them if I can.

   4. Good listener, very kind hearted and loving ^_^

   5. I find myself funny, and love to make others laugh, and cheer them up.

What I found surprising is the lull that I experienced between points #4 and #5. Seriously, it took all weekend to write this blog. I’d like to think I have pretty decent self-esteem, but even I fumbled at complimenting myself.

You’d think it would be easy to be nice to yourself, but self-criticism and judgment just comes more naturally to some. It takes nothing to look at the negative, but the positive is always ducking behind a tree.

Remember a moment in your life when you look in the mirror and go: “I’m good enough. I’m smart enough and cute and pretty/handsome, people like me? It was funny and cheesy… but it was kinda on to something.

When’s the last time you said something nice about yourself out loud? If it’s been a while (or maybe never), you’re long overdue.

You can’t wait for people to notice the good things about you. You have to recognize and celebrate them for yourself. I mean, after all, if you don’t like you, who else will? Loving oneself is the healthiest thing a person could do, you must love yourself first and have confidence in yourself. Then relationships, friendships being great at your job, at school will be an easy process.

One of my mother’s many words of advice is: “Speak positive things about yourself everyday.” So go for it. Don’t be shy; toot your own horn. List five things you love about yourself and post it below.

7 Reasons Why Guys Hide Their Feelings

They feel vulnerable

Most men are reluctant to bare their souls and talk about their inner feelings, emotions, fears, dreams and hopes because they feel that it would leave them vulnerable. This is why they cling to their innermost feelings and are unwilling to open up.

They are less emotional than women

Women tend to think nothing of sharing their deepest feelings with the man they love. They are highly emotional and want to reveal their heart’s desires as quickly as possible. However, men are not like this. They tend to abhor the thought of spilling their thoughts to anyone! They tend to be less emotional and more reserved.

They fear of being thought of as a sissy

Sometimes a man feels that if he told a woman everything – his hopes, fears, dreams and aspirations, then he could look like a sissy or even foolish. He feel embarrassed at the thought of giving voice to his feelings easily. This makes him reluctant to share his thoughts even to the woman he is dating.

They need to feel independent

It is natural for men to feel independent and “strong”. The thought of unburdening his deepest feelings and insecurities would make him as “weak and vulnerable” as anyone else! This natural urge to remain independent and stronger than anyone else will stop him from being too open.

They need to trust first

Women go with their gut feelings and instincts. If she feels like talking, she will! This is not so with men who need to first trust! Only if he feels that he can trust a woman enough to let her know everything about him, will he open up and bare his soul. If he does not fully trust her, wild horses wouldn’t make him confess!

They need to be convinced of your feelings

Just as a man needs to first trust his woman implicitly and wholeheartedly before he can open up and share his feelings, they also need to know if she loves him deeply and trusts him back. Only then he would be encouraged and motivated to tell her personal things.

They are reluctant to give themselves away

Men are naturally more reluctant to give themselves away because they need to know that in doing so, they will not face any kind of rejection. Unless and until they are convinced that they will be accepted and loved no matter what – they will refuse to open up.

Courtesy: http://healthyandbeloved.com