Being single is
getting over the illusion that there is somebody out there to complete you and
taking charge of your own life.
The thought
above came as a realization to me, some years ago and life hasn’t been the same
since then. This article is dedicated to all the single guys and girls out
there who live an awesome life and know the meaning of what it means to have a
good time! They are the ones who can truly understand the benefits of being
single in this world. For those of you who have recently attained a single
status, this article will present the silver lining of breaking up from a
relationship that wasn’t working out! For those who rue on the fact that they
are single, this article may remind them about what they are missing out on!
Keep reading ahead to know what are the advantages of being single in this wide
world.
Are you a happy
single or single but desperate to fall for someone? There is a lot of
difference between those two states. Personally, I feel that the first state is
the ideal one to be in, while the second one is going to lead you to make a lot
of bad choices! The idea is to be comfortable being who you are and be on the
path of realizing your true potential. You will certainly find someone along
the way, who shares your view of the world and understands you for who you are.
Most people who are single and desperate to change that status, are missing out
upon the many benefits of being single. In the rest of the article, I discuss
the many advantages of being single, that perhaps need to be reminded to a lot
of people out there!
What are the Benefits
of Being Single?
People actually
dread being single! It is true that you need a close companion in the journey
of life. However, taking this fact to the point where the only objective of
one’s life is finding that one borders on being ridiculous. What you are
looking for is a fellow traveler, with whom the journey will be more enjoyable.
That person cannot be your destination, if you get what I am talking about
here!
If you are going
to be moving around with droopy eyes looking for that special someone
desperately and be needy, you are seriously downgrading your chances of finding
someone eventually! All that said and done, if you are a sore single, you are
missing out on a lot, which I endeavor to remind you about in the following
lines.
Time to
Reconnect With Yourself
Instead of
despairing being single, which is not going to help you change your status,
look at it as an opportunity to find yourself. If you have just gone through a
relationship break up, initially it will be very painful, but later you will
realize all that you were missing out upon. Looking in the mirror, you find
somebody who is not you. You are a shadow of your former self.
You will realize
the degree to which you have compromised being who you are, to be accepted by
your ex partner! It is time that this stopped and you started asserting
yourself for who you truly are. Place your happiness above everything else!
Realize that it is not dependent on the whims of some person.
Take time to
explore the true definition of love. Spend time doing things that you like.
Follow up every one of those interests, that you were constrained from pursuing
when you were in a relationship! You will slowly realize that you are happy,
despite being single!
Freedom to Make
Your Own Decisions
One of the prime
benefits of being single parent or a single man or woman, is the complete
freedom that you get to make decisions on your own. You don’t need somebody’s
approval to do what you want to. While being a single parent after a divorce or
otherwise can be tough, it gives you time to connect with your child or
children like never before. Yes, it’s tough being a mom and a dad, but then, it
has the added benefit of being there for your children more than before.
You are free of
the dependence in decision-making that inevitably follows from being in a
relationship for too long. Take the freedom to think on your own and make your
own decisions. Breathe the fresh air of freedom my friend! Enjoy the peace of
mind and liberation from emotional turbulence that riddles relationships. You
will realize that being a happy loner has its benefits!
Freedom to
Follow Your Ambitions
The liberation
that being single provides you to follow your ambitions is an often overlooked
benefit. Work hard, party harder! I am not saying that being in a relationship,
you cannot follow your ambitions, but it does put a lot of constraints and
responsibility. Being single, you can focus better on your work, without all
the emotional tribulations getting in your way. Balancing work life and a
relationship can be a daunting task for men and women.
It is better to
wait for a time when you are in a better position to give full justice to a
relationship, than get into one hurriedly and ruin it because of interests in
professional life. Set your priorities in order. This is a good time to do
that. For your own growth, it is important that you prove yourself in your own
eyes, before you even think of getting into a relationship.
More Time For
Pals
One of the prime
benefits of being single woman or man is the time you get to spend with you
pals! People in a relationship rarely get time to spend with their friend
circles, because of the time they spend together. Go for that camping trip that
you have been planning with your friends for so long. Go for that biking trip
you have been thinking about for so long with your biking gang.
Freedom to Take
Risks
When you are
single, there is more room for you to take risks, that you normally wouldn’t
while being in a relationship. You can take financial risks and personal risks
in your area of work, without worrying about dependents.
Flirt 360
Degrees
Of course,
nobody has stopped you from flirting harmlessly 360 degrees! You need to stay
in the game, though you waive the ‘single but unavailable’ status. Don’t hurry
or jump into anything serious until you are sure and ready for it. Nobody can
switch off the flirting instinct which is inbuilt!
Know What
Happiness Means
Many people rush
early into a relationship without knowing what they really want or what
happiness means to them. Take charge of your life with confidence and find out
what you are truly made for. You derive happiness from positive changes that
you see in yourself, which can only arise when you take up newer challenges.
For me at least,
ultimate happiness is not just being with that special somebody, but sharing my
own happiness with her, as she will share hers with mine, as we both pursue our
goals independently. Don’t sacrifice your personal happiness for acceptance!
You have to create your own world and seek your personal challenges. It is in
the struggle to overcome those challenges, that you will find happiness.
Strive to be
independent and happiness will follow from it. Once you have achieved personal
balance from within, you will be able to give out love and take it in much more
gracefully.
These were some
of the benefits of being single man or woman. Enjoy the freedom that you get as
being single! That’s one of its prime benefits. You can change the single
status to ‘happily married’ one day, when you find someone who lets you be
yourself!
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