Friday, February 24, 2012

Where Were You?


Sec. Edwin Lacierda recounting what it was like to be at EDSA People Power 1. Another memory - a fierce commitment to stay on that stretch of road and its environs, because to leave the area, even for a while, felt like you were turning your back on your country. A nice recollection of those vanished days.


       20 years ago, when we were still law students, we felt a breath of fresh air stirring in our midst when Cardinal Sin called out the people to protect the soldiers.

     To us, we wondered what all that meant. At that time, we just finished studying the 1973 Constitution or the Marcos Constitution and I recall that not even the commentaries of Fr. Bernas spoke negatively of that charter, al least not as openly as he does now in his Inquirer columns.


But while the atmosphere of martial law prevailed in those days, pre-EDSA circa 1985-86 was a joy in law school. While our classes were held in the evenings, we full time law students would join the rallies in Makati in the afternoon and stormed Security Bank which when they saw the rallyists would immediately roll down their steel doors.

We would walk the length and breadth of Ayala Avenue to the cheering Makati office personnel who would open their windows from buildings high up and rain down their yellow confetti, presumably shredded from the PLDT yellow pages, cheering us on. We would sing Bayan Ko, listen to speeches, both fiery and hilarious, interspersed with chanting and sloganeering but all the same, critical of Marcos and his cronies.


     In law school, there were a handful of Marcos loyalists holdouts and among them were the daughter of then Defense Secretary Juan Ponce Enrile, the youngest son of a former Minister of Justice and whose other famous brother is a lawyer turned news personality and a wine connoisseur, the son of a former PBA commissioner, the brother of a TV female news personality, and the sister of a famous fashion designer. And to their credit, they did not shirk from their belief that Marcos was their man. Before the snap elections, they would wear Marcos red t-shirts while most of us would wear Ninoy or Cory yellow. While the battle for the hearts and minds was fought in the streets, the law school was not immune from occasional outbursts of “Cory”"Cory" "Cory" and “Marcos pa rin”. It was simply unacceptable to fence sit during those heady days.



     When the snap election was held, we were taking up Election Law and our professor, Atty. Rogelio Nicandro, suggested to us that those who volunteered in any form or manner during the snap elections would get credit. Immediately, droves applied as NAMFREL volunteers and I was assigned to Xavier school to monitor the elections in San Juan. Even FPJ’s daughter was a NAMFREL volunteer in San Juan.

       In one instance, there were Marcos volunteers who entered the Xavier precinct wearing Marcos red and they were told it was prohibited by law and was asked to leave. Of course, being Marcos country, they haughtily refused and even shouted “Marcos pa rin”. We retorted and chanted back “Cory” “Cory” drowning their arrogance till they decided to leave the election premises. And naturally, all those who volunteered got a grade of 90 in Election Law.


      When Cardinal Sin called out the people to support the RAM boys, some of us were set to attend the ordination rites of Fr. Louie David in Ateneo Loyola. Some of us never made it to the ordination because we got detoured at EDSA and just about decided to stay on not knowing where this would lead to.

      I remember at one point standing at the foot of the stage at Camp Crame where Fidel Ramos, Juan Ponce Enrile, Mel Lopez and some other political personalities were giving out their pep talk. This was the time when Ramos was jumping and telling us that it will be over soon. We were cheering them on and so hopeful that the dictator would be gone. It turned out that he was giving us a pep talk because they heard rumors that Marcos was going to send out his troops and tanks for the last time to quell the revolt.


       My memory may not be so clear at this point but that scene where Ramos was jumping on the stage and my face was clearly evident among the throng was immortalized in Mr. Arillo’s book. Unfortunately, having no sense of history and no regard for posterity at that time, I failed to get hold of his book and have not seen a copy since.

        We stayed and slept in EDSA. We faced the tanks and soldiers. We befriended nameless people. We shared food and drinks as though we were long lost confreres. More than a rally, all of us came to EDSA to break bread and fellowship with all who were willing to stand in the line of fire and take the bullet, as it were, for freedom and change of government. Like the namesake of the street, it was truly an epiphany of saints, men and women of goodwill who believed that corruption and bad government should not last a day longer.


       It was 20 years ago. Many of us have become disillusioned and some like Ignacio Bunye have the temerity to say EDSA is no longer relevant. 20 years ago, I was willing to die for my country. I have no reason to depart from that belief 20 years hence, present leadership notwithstanding and apathy being the new social cancer.

       Like Leah Navarro when interviewed by Newsbreak Magazine, I want my country back too.


Monday, February 20, 2012

57 Things That Girls Should Know About Guys


1. When a guy looks at you, either he's amazed of you or he's criticizing you 

2. Guys don’t like to be used as pawns in trying to make your friends jealous.

3. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. Better watch out girls.

4. The biggest turn off for guys is to see girls smoking.


5. The biggest turn on for guys are the girls who workout.

6. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.


7. Ending a heated conversation with “Fine” or “Whatever” isn’t considered acceptable. 
8.If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you're with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.

9.  Girls are allowed to touch boys' things. Not their hair!

10. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

11. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.

12. Guys need to be reassured often that they’re still loved.

13. Guys don’t care about how gorgeous you are, it’s goodbye, adios, and sayonara if you’re being a bitch.

14. All guys are kinky and willing to try anything that you may enjoy, just let them know.

15. Guys are more emotional than you think. If they loved you at one point, it’ll take them a lot longer than you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.

16. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!

17. A guy would do just about anything to get you to notice him. 

18. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.


19. Guys do not look into minute detailing. So, if you gave up a quarter of an inch from your 20 inches long hair, don’t expect your guy to know that instantly.


20. When four or more men get together, they talk about sports. When four or more women get together, they talk about men.


21. Cooking makes a girl all the more attractive. 

22. You can’t get mad if your guy refuses to hook up your “ugly friend” with one of his good-looking friends.

23. Nothing you will ever do will entitle you to operate the remote control, unless operating means handing it to him.

24. Video games have helped men develop awesome skills that only encourage them to play more often.

25. Critiquing a man’s driving is outright unacceptable.

26. Guys’ night outs are sacred events. If you ask any question about it, you’ll be castigated.

27. Believe it or not, 99.5% of the time men honestly don’t mean to hurt you. 

28. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

29. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. 

30. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

31. Don’t hold it against your guy if he starts to cry after a good sports movie, and was laughing outrageously last night when the two of you were watching an emotional drama saga.

32. Leaving a message like “You know what?! Mmm… Never mind…” would make a guy hanging on to that thought all day long and reach a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. Don’t ever do that!

33. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

34. Guys love you more than you love them.

35. No matter how much guys talk about hotness or sex appeal, personality is key.

36. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that. 

37. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn’t happen that often, so when it does, you know something’s up.

38. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes. 
39. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

40. You like when your guy calls and asks you out for dinner and pays for you, right? Well yeah, guys like it once in a while too.

41. It’s natural for a guy’s eyes to wander.

42. It’s not that guys don’t want to make their girlfriends happy; it’s just that sometimes, they don’t know how.

43. A guy would give his right arm to be able to read a girl’s mind for a day.

44. Not all guys are jerks. Just because one is a jackass doesn’t mean he represents all of them.

45. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you. It means he likes you more than you can imagine.

46. Even if you dumped a guy months ago and he loved you, he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be to have you back in his life.

47. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.


48. A guy would waste his time over video games and football, the way a girl would do over novels and make-ups.

49. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does!

50. Guys cry!!!!!!!!

51. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.

52. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."

53. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.

54. Guys love their moms.

55. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.

56. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

57. No guy is bad when he is courting.


Tuesday, February 14, 2012

My Birthday Wish



I am turning a year older tomorrow, and I always get asked what I want for my birthday and I am epically awful at thinking of material things I want.  It’s time to put material things aside and remember those who paved the way for me. Every year I know what I want — I want to be able to make an impact to the lives of my adopted kids in my community (Mansalay, Oriental Mindoro). I usually do this every year since 2008. I know it’s not everyday that you get to help people around you and not everyone has the heart and passion to reach out to those who are in need. 
For those who don’t know, I started a charity works and a volunteer’s organization (Keep Hope Alive) in 2008, a lifetime commitment for queer children who experience poverty, hunger and depression. I firmly believe that to bring change to our world we need to keep as many queer and questioning and amazing young people in this world as possible before anything else we do matters, and Keep Hope Alive helps me do that. Every act of involvement says you believe in the idea of making the world a better place. Children will not remember you for the material things you provided, but for the feeling that you cherished them. I admire those people who do and pray for the hearts of those who don’t that someday their hearts will be touched and be able to share their blessings.
I’ve been thinking about this for a while, and it’s really the thing that will make me most happy second to serving God and family. In giving, I believe nothing is too little, no matter how small. Napakasarap sa feeling na nakakapagpasaya at nakakatulong ka sa mga tao lalo na sa mga musmos sa paligid mo. Ako aaminin kong wala akong pakialam sa mga batang palaboy-laboy lamang sa lansangan nung bata pa ako, dahil unang-una hindi ko naman sila kaano-ano. Pero nung nakita ko kung gaano sila kasaya sa ginagawa kong pagtulong, narealize ko na lahat ng tao sa mundong ito ay dapat pangalagaan ang isa’t isa sapagkat tayo’y mga nilikha ng diyos na may kaakibat na responsibilidad para magserve. Lalo na kapag nakaka-angat ka or kaya blessed ka with good job and family na di nararanasan ng mga batang ito. I know money is hard, and charity can be very personal, but God’s provision is immeasurable.
I’m very excited for my birthday tomorrow. Another wish will come to pass. I’m excited to see more children to be fed and be inspired with the feeding and healthy teeth program we prepared. To all the people, friends and my family who helped and supported me with this passion and advocacy, thank you is not enough. Let God deal with your good deeds. To some people just reading this and knowing and respecting that this is something I care about means a lot to me. J



Playing with the kids. These kids loved to be cuddled. As soon as their done with handwashing they ran towards me and asked me to carry them on our back. (piggy back ride) 



Monday, February 13, 2012

Benefits Of Being Single


Being single is getting over the illusion that there is somebody out there to complete you and taking charge of your own life.
The thought above came as a realization to me, some years ago and life hasn’t been the same since then. This article is dedicated to all the single guys and girls out there who live an awesome life and know the meaning of what it means to have a good time! They are the ones who can truly understand the benefits of being single in this world. For those of you who have recently attained a single status, this article will present the silver lining of breaking up from a relationship that wasn’t working out! For those who rue on the fact that they are single, this article may remind them about what they are missing out on! Keep reading ahead to know what are the advantages of being single in this wide world.
Are you a happy single or single but desperate to fall for someone? There is a lot of difference between those two states. Personally, I feel that the first state is the ideal one to be in, while the second one is going to lead you to make a lot of bad choices! The idea is to be comfortable being who you are and be on the path of realizing your true potential. You will certainly find someone along the way, who shares your view of the world and understands you for who you are. Most people who are single and desperate to change that status, are missing out upon the many benefits of being single. In the rest of the article, I discuss the many advantages of being single, that perhaps need to be reminded to a lot of people out there!


What are the Benefits of Being Single?

People actually dread being single! It is true that you need a close companion in the journey of life. However, taking this fact to the point where the only objective of one’s life is finding that one borders on being ridiculous. What you are looking for is a fellow traveler, with whom the journey will be more enjoyable. That person cannot be your destination, if you get what I am talking about here!
If you are going to be moving around with droopy eyes looking for that special someone desperately and be needy, you are seriously downgrading your chances of finding someone eventually! All that said and done, if you are a sore single, you are missing out on a lot, which I endeavor to remind you about in the following lines.


Time to Reconnect With Yourself
Instead of despairing being single, which is not going to help you change your status, look at it as an opportunity to find yourself. If you have just gone through a relationship break up, initially it will be very painful, but later you will realize all that you were missing out upon. Looking in the mirror, you find somebody who is not you. You are a shadow of your former self.
You will realize the degree to which you have compromised being who you are, to be accepted by your ex partner! It is time that this stopped and you started asserting yourself for who you truly are. Place your happiness above everything else! Realize that it is not dependent on the whims of some person.
Take time to explore the true definition of love. Spend time doing things that you like. Follow up every one of those interests, that you were constrained from pursuing when you were in a relationship! You will slowly realize that you are happy, despite being single!


Freedom to Make Your Own Decisions
One of the prime benefits of being single parent or a single man or woman, is the complete freedom that you get to make decisions on your own. You don’t need somebody’s approval to do what you want to. While being a single parent after a divorce or otherwise can be tough, it gives you time to connect with your child or children like never before. Yes, it’s tough being a mom and a dad, but then, it has the added benefit of being there for your children more than before.

You are free of the dependence in decision-making that inevitably follows from being in a relationship for too long. Take the freedom to think on your own and make your own decisions. Breathe the fresh air of freedom my friend! Enjoy the peace of mind and liberation from emotional turbulence that riddles relationships. You will realize that being a happy loner has its benefits!


Freedom to Follow Your Ambitions
The liberation that being single provides you to follow your ambitions is an often overlooked benefit. Work hard, party harder! I am not saying that being in a relationship, you cannot follow your ambitions, but it does put a lot of constraints and responsibility. Being single, you can focus better on your work, without all the emotional tribulations getting in your way. Balancing work life and a relationship can be a daunting task for men and women.
It is better to wait for a time when you are in a better position to give full justice to a relationship, than get into one hurriedly and ruin it because of interests in professional life. Set your priorities in order. This is a good time to do that. For your own growth, it is important that you prove yourself in your own eyes, before you even think of getting into a relationship.


More Time For Pals
One of the prime benefits of being single woman or man is the time you get to spend with you pals! People in a relationship rarely get time to spend with their friend circles, because of the time they spend together. Go for that camping trip that you have been planning with your friends for so long. Go for that biking trip you have been thinking about for so long with your biking gang.


Freedom to Take Risks
When you are single, there is more room for you to take risks, that you normally wouldn’t while being in a relationship. You can take financial risks and personal risks in your area of work, without worrying about dependents.


Flirt 360 Degrees
Of course, nobody has stopped you from flirting harmlessly 360 degrees! You need to stay in the game, though you waive the ‘single but unavailable’ status. Don’t hurry or jump into anything serious until you are sure and ready for it. Nobody can switch off the flirting instinct which is inbuilt!


Know What Happiness Means
Many people rush early into a relationship without knowing what they really want or what happiness means to them. Take charge of your life with confidence and find out what you are truly made for. You derive happiness from positive changes that you see in yourself, which can only arise when you take up newer challenges.

For me at least, ultimate happiness is not just being with that special somebody, but sharing my own happiness with her, as she will share hers with mine, as we both pursue our goals independently. Don’t sacrifice your personal happiness for acceptance! You have to create your own world and seek your personal challenges. It is in the struggle to overcome those challenges, that you will find happiness.

Strive to be independent and happiness will follow from it. Once you have achieved personal balance from within, you will be able to give out love and take it in much more gracefully.

These were some of the benefits of being single man or woman. Enjoy the freedom that you get as being single! That’s one of its prime benefits. You can change the single status to ‘happily married’ one day, when you find someone who lets you be yourself!


Reblog from the internet.

7 Reasons Why Guys Hide Their Feelings

They feel vulnerable
Most men are reluctant to bare their souls and talk about their inner feelings, emotions, fears, dreams and hopes because they feel that it would leave them vulnerable. This is why they cling to their innermost feelings and are unwilling to open up.

They are less emotional than women
Women tend to think nothing of sharing their deepest feelings with the man they love. They are highly emotional and want to reveal their heart’s desires as quickly as possible. However, men are not like this. They tend to abhor the thought of spilling their thoughts to anyone! They tend to be less emotional and more reserved.

They fear of being thought of as a sissy
Sometimes a man feels that if he told a woman everything – his hopes, fears, dreams and aspirations, then he could look like a sissy or even foolish. He feel embarrassed at the thought of giving voice to his feelings easily. This makes him reluctant to share his thoughts even to the woman he is dating.

They need to feel independent
It is natural for men to feel independent and “strong”. The thought of unburdening his deepest feelings and insecurities would make him as “weak and vulnerable” as anyone else! This natural urge to remain independent and stronger than anyone else will stop him from being too open.

They need to trust first
Women go with their gut feelings and instincts. If she feels like talking, she will! This is not so with men who need to first trust! Only if he feels that he can trust a woman enough to let her know everything about him, will he open up and bare his soul. If he does not fully trust her, wild horses wouldn’t make him confess!

They need to be convinced of your feelings
Just as a man needs to first trust his woman implicitly and wholeheartedly before he can open up and share his feelings, they also need to know if she loves him deeply and trusts him back. Only then he would be encouraged and motivated to tell her personal things.

They are reluctant to give themselves away
Men are naturally more reluctant to give themselves away because they need to know that in doing so, they will not face any kind of rejection. Unless and until they are convinced that they will be accepted and loved no matter what – they will refuse to open up.
Courtesy: http://healthyandbeloved.com